A Letter to My Unborn Baby- Love Mom

Daddy decided he wanted to write u and I was not to be outshined lol. Just kidding but I do want you to have something to read from mommy.

First and foremost, I want to tell you I love you so much and I can’t wait to see your face. I know I will stare at you for hours in a surreal moment. You were made from Love, a true love I am happy to say exist in this crazy world. We were quite surprised you were the outcome of such a beautiful, crazy, fun night in Berlin but here you are growing in my belly. I was scared, I was very terrified learning about you I was not sure I was ready and I didn’t want to screw up. There was so many things I thought was against us being ready to be parents; your dad and I just got married, we live between 2 countries, and I believed us to be to young But I reevaluated myself, and your daddy gave me the courage to say out loud “I will be a great mommy”.

I am 31 weeks which mean according to the doctors I have 9 weeks to go but you make your grand entrance when you are good and ready my child. I want you to know I am here to protect you, love you, make you feel oh so special. I will try my hardest not to smother you, but the first year please let me lol. I plan to show you the world, explain to you the sky is not the limit, and to take on ever challenge with your head held high.

Yes, my child you will be a beautiful black child with a great family background. I am American and your father is South African. You have a tongue of 2 beautiful languages and the world will know you to speak both. And in your process of learning I will learn Xhosa with you, so we as a family will always be connected. I want you to always embrace both your cultures and love yourself. Please my beautiful baby always love yourself and understand who you are and where you come from. Define yourself in this world, do not let this world define you.

And I ask for your forgiveness now? You did not get to choose your parents and I’m a tad bit crazy. No, I won’t be that mommy that sings my heart out in the car to Mariah Carey and Beyoncé, and I won’t be that mommy that will milley rock on the beat, and I absolutely will not be that mommy screaming “that’s my baby” at your sporting events, art shows, or concerts. But then again that’s a promise I’m not sure I can keep ahaha. Just please love me when we get home and laugh at me in your room. I want nothing but the best for you and remember mommy did all the work these past 9 months so that automatically qualifies me as your favorite.

See I’m already talking your ear off so until we meet, my beautiful black child. I love you!

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A Letter to my unborn baby- From Dad

I’m sitting here in this empty room trying to figure out what to write? What do people write to unborn babies ? Do people even write to unborn babies ? That doesn’t matter now, I’ve committed to the task and now I have to follow through. I hope I don’t bore you.

I’m so excited to meet you . I must admit that when news of your arrival came , me and your mother were shocked. We were nervous. Here’s why? I feel like I cant take care of myself properly and your mother is transitioning into a new part of her life; and yet here we are having the nerve to invite you into our chaos. But they say that the best things in life are usually unplanned and I wouldn’t change a thing about that lustful night in Berlin. You came about because of love and passion between two people and that’s all that matters.

There are so many emotions, thoughts and questions about you that flow through my mind everyday. Like; I can envision that on your day of arrival I’m not going to want to leave your side, there’ll be so many moments that I’ll miss that any time I have with you I’ll cherish.I only ask this of you, lease don’t wake me up at weird hours ? I know thats a bit of a bargain, but( I’m only kidding)… I wonder who and what you’re gonna look like ? Please have your moms cheeks ?
I also know that as a father my biggest job will be to protect you but not shelter you. To teach you right from wrong and to also let you explore the world on your own navigation system. There are some things in this life that you’ll have to experience on your own, only because experience is the best teacher . I’m not just talking about the fun experiences. There’s heartbreak, failure,, hardships and pain that also come with this life. All necessary things that are part of growing up but lets not dampen the spirit right now. You’re almost here and everybody is happy. Both sides of the family that is. By the way you have a very interesting family. Your mom is from the US and I’m from South Africa, you’ll see in years to come that they are two worlds apart but with this you’ll also learn that love has the power to overcome most if not everything.

I realize that I could talk to you all day about our story but that would be too much, besides I think my bedtime stories will make up for all of that . Now carry on giving your mother a hard time and draining up all her energy and we’ll see you whenever you decide to grace us with your presence.


A very nervous dad 🙂